THE SANCTUARY CENTER has a zero tolerance policy regarding its Code of Conduct. The topics we will be discussing in this program are controversial and you will feel uncomfortable at some point. Respect for persons, for example, requires that one act with respect, responsibility, and caring for all people. Any behavior that counteracts that imperative is subject to review under the Code of Conduct.
At the same time, the procedures of the Student Code of Conduct review process require that persons under its purview be treated with respect.
Integrity not only requires that individuals behave truthfully, honestly, and fairly with each other and the institution; it also requires the Student Code of Conduct to be careful and honest in its evaluations.
The goals and process of THE SANCTUARY CENTER’s Code of Conduct attempt to reflect our highest aspirations for working with this community. Once engaged, the student conduct system seeks, as a primary goal, to address the most basic expectations of student conduct through education and intervention.
Below is a list of actions that will be subject to disciplinary sanctions. The list is not all encompassing. Being under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol during events will not serve as an excuse if found in violation of the Code of Conduct. By signing the membership agreement, you are consenting to the policies and procedures of including the Code of Conduct.
- Acts of dishonesty including, but not limited to, the following
- Cheating, plagiarism, or other forms of behaviors which are not consistant with the to the mission and values if the of the center
- Providing false information, slander, or gossip to any official, TSC member, office, or social board
- Forgery, alteration, or misuse of any document, record, or instrument of identification.
- A disruptive activity that causes the obstruction of teaching, learning, research, administration, conduct, or infringement upon the rights of others. Such activity includes, but is not limited to, behavior in a classroom or other center areas, that interfere with a member or presenter’s ability to conduct the class or program or the ability of others to profit from the class or event
- Harm to Persons: Actions which result in physical harm, have the potential for physically harming another person, which create conditions that pose a risk of physical harm to another, or which cause reasonable apprehension of physical harm are prohibited.
- Harassment: Conduct that creates or attempts to create an intimidating, hostile, or offensive environment for another person is prohibited. Such conduct includes, but is not limited to, action(s) or statement(s) that threaten harm, that intimidates a person, stalking voyeurism (or peeping), or any other form of unwanted contact.
- Sexual Misconduct: non-consensual sexual contact (or attempts to commit same), non-consensual sexual intercourse (or attempts to commit same), and/or sexual exploitation.
- Sexual Harassment: Unwelcome, gender-based verbal or physical conduct that:
Is sufficiently severe, pervasive, and objectively offensive.
Unreasonably interferes with, limits or deprives someone of the ability to participate in or benefit from the College’s educational program and/or activities.
Is based on power differentials (including quid pro quo), the creation of a hostile environment, or retaliation.
THE SANCTUARY CENTER welcomes everyone, regardless of gender, orientation, relationship choices, race, religion, ability or disability or body type.
Many types of people attend our center, from many different communities and cultures within the LGBTQ+ and vanilla communities; it is important to leave our intolerances at the door.
Racist, sexist, homophobic, heterophobic, bi-phobic, gender-phobic, leather-phobic, sex-phobic, size-phobic, albeit, ageist or other prejudiced remarks and attitudes will not be tolerated.
If seeing a particular type of scene, event, or interaction makes you uncomfortable, or if there is someone at an event whom you have personal issues with, then it is up to you to remove yourself from the situation.
It is everyone’s responsibility to understand, ask for, and choose whether to give or withhold consent for tea, advice, or sexuality.
Together, we seek to create a trauma safe and consensual space where people are accepted and able to learn, work, or seek help safely.
At THE SANCTUARY CENTER, we take consent and harassment issues very seriously. When an incident occurs, we do our best to get all the information possible, and then decide on what action (if any) is appropriate for us to take as an organization.
Reports of consent violations are few and far between, so we prefer to treat each one as its own situation and decide on an appropriate course of action on a case-by-case basis.
These are the CONSENT GUIDELINES we expect everyone at THE SANCTUARY CENTER to follow while you are with us.
We hope you will follow them outside our doors as well.
- No touching people or personal property without permission.
- Treat everyone as an equal by default. Everyone has a responsibility to obtain, provide, or withhold consent regardless of sex, gender, race, ethnicity, ability, age, orientation, relationship status, sexual power dynamics, or any other identity.
- Negotiate the scope of your activities. This not only includes intimate activities but work, opinions, and advice. We recommend making clear that all parties involved have given consent to the proposed acts.
- Each participant is responsible for making sure, to the best of their ability, that everyone involved has the physical, mental, and emotional capacity to give informed and voluntary consent during the negotiation and during the activity itself.
- Anyone can withdraw consent at any time during any activity. Participants need to agree on meanings for safe words or safe signs when they are being used. All participants shall endeavor to be clear and unequivocal when withdrawing consent. (The house safe word is “Red”.)
- All participants are responsible for stopping immediately any activity at the withdrawal of consent from anyone.
- Unless previously agreed upon, we recommend not re-negotiating in the middle of an activity. When a person is not in a clear state of mind, you may not have full or informed consent even though they agree in the heat of the moment.
- If your consent is violated or you experience a consent injury, verbally tell a volunteer, event organizer, or clearly marked delegate. There is a procedure in place to help you. If you are unable to do so, inform the Director by phone or email as soon as possible. It is your right to report what happened to you and to ask for support.
- Violation of the consent policy may result in expulsion from the event and/or temporary or permanent ban from The Sanctuary Center/THE SANCTUARY CENTER events or activities. There are procedures in place to handle violation of this policy and all volunteers, staff, and delegates will follow those procedures. No one is exempt from the policy.
Disclaimer: Every reasonable effort will be made to enforce this policy, but neither organization makes representations or guarantees about its ability to do so. Each situation is distinct and will be reviewed on a case-by-case basis. All participants and attendees retain full, sole responsibility for their safety and the safety of others with whom they interact.
Please remember that even if you have witnessed an incident, you may not have all the relevant details to make a judgment about what happened.
Remember that you may not have information about what was negotiated between parties, about what has discussed ahead of time with THE SANCTUARY CENTER staff, or about what goes on behind the scenes.
You may have a different line of sight or angle and not have seen everything that went on. Jumping to conclusions about what happened between people, as an observer can be dangerous and lead to the spread of misinformation.
This is why we ask that if you have concerns, you contact us. We do our best to handle consent violations directly with the involved parties, so we ask our members and attendees to remember that even if you don’t see it overtly, we may be working with people privately.
Know that while we do our best to create a safe space for people, personal responsibility is still extremely important. We provide a space where people can come to learn and explore things they may not be able to find elsewhere. Our faculty, interns, and staff all try to provide great insight, education, and monitoring.
If you believe you have witnessed a consent violation, please let us know. To make a report, please email us at It is important to us to be able to respond and speak to you if you’re feeling uncomfortable about something that happened at THE SANCTUARY CENTER.
To Report Consent Incidents or Request a Consent Advocate
Contact the Director of The Grievance Committee “Therapist Nicki” at firstname.lastname@example.org or call (833) 5 HARMONY.
It is everyone’s responsibility to understand, ask for, and choose whether to give or withhold consent. Together, we seek to create a safe and consensual space where people are accepted and able to explore themselves.